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Thank you~~it\'s amazing how just writing out your feelings can make such a difference.  I feel a tiny bit better already..I also just realized I hardly ate anything today.  Not good.  ---

Well, I\'d say you are a textbook case of before surgery jitters.  Three weeks is not too long to start obsessing for a thing like this.  It really is ok.
As far as the neighbor - when she tells you she can\'t afford stuff, say,"well, I know how lucky I am, and I thank heaven every day", and leave it at that.  If you must say something else, continue with "we worked hard for what we have and don\'t feel a need to apologize".
For the teacher who ignores you - Go out of your way to say something pleasant to her, go after her if she turns away when she sees you coming.  Like, "just wanted to say my kiddo came home particularly happy yesterday - so thank you" and stuff like that.  Even just pleasantries - and the same with the others - kill\'em with kindness.  If you really wanna\' piss \'em off nicely - bake cookies and bring them around - for the mommies dropping off and picking up their kids!  LOL  make it a game and you\'ll start enjoying it.  Believe me, I know.  Been there, done that, and ended up being invited to join in.
You\'re gonna\' do fine and you deserve it all!  Consider it a part of healthy living.  and THAT is a gift to your family.  I KNOW had I had this done years ago I NEVER would\'ve gotten SO overweight, etc.
So hang in there, Sweety.  We\'re all here for you. ---

Thanks for replying..I know my post was really long, so thank you for your patience in reading it, too.  It\'s good to know 3 weeks isn\'t too long before surgery to start feeling these jitters.  You have some really great ideas on how to deal with my neighbor and my son\'s teacher..I\'m going to try them out, definitely.  I do like my neighbor, except for those stinkin\' comments she makes.  I think it\'s her way of dealing with her jealousy.  I am also 23 years younger than she is, and well..she could use some pampering.  She is always bringing me chocolates and fattening cookies and stuff, too.  Sabotage!  I understand where she\'s coming from, but still....it gets hard to deal with at times.  That\'s a good way to look at it - a gift to my family.  My kids will have a hot mom and my DH will have a smokin\' wife.  ---

Thank you..I worry about posting too much, but well, I like all the people on here and all the support and advice and gossip.  Yes, the anxiety about this surgery didn\'t hit big until this week.  I mean, December starts in 3 days!  I do feel much better since posting and talking with my husband.  Man, it was a hard day today.    I have always been nice to my neighbor so I don\'t feel I deserve her comments.  I don\'t go around flaunting that I have a lot of money or wearing super designer clothes or drive a luxury car.  I mean yeah, we are more \'well off\' than her, but she also has more kids than I do, and 8 pets, and more expenses.  So of course we can buy more freakin\' flowers in the spring!  Ah..can\'t please everyone, right?  BUT, She does make the BEST cherry jam, though. With cherries from her tree in the back yard. I ate it straight out of the jar, it was so good.  SO..there are positives to everything.  ---

Well just to address the money issue...I felt major guilt too but I will give you perspective 19 months out that it was the best thing I did and money well spent..my waist is 5 sizes smaller now and I am much happier with my body, even now getting a divorce I am still so happy I did it. You will be too. ---

I know how you feel...its a lot of $$ and its not easy to justify it, but you ARE worth that and I also know how you feel about the whole "young mom" thing...my son will be starting school next year and I just dread it.....Other moms usually think im the friggin nanny or something!! HELLOOOO im not 16!!!! I dont fit in with any of them in my neighborhood, They are all mostly in their 30\'s to 40\'s and have children the same age as my children....nothing against them or anyone who is older than me, but the reason we dont get along is because of them thinking im some kid not because of the difference in age....and im sure that some of them dont think that way but most are very judgemental, you can just tell...UGH its so frustrating I know! Just try to relax and dont worry about it, it will all come together!  Oh BTW, dont feel bad I still have scarecrows and pumpkins on my front porch!!LOL---

I think it is pretty common and normal to be anxious at 3weeks and counting! As for your age everyone has a right to be at the age they are at!! Simple but so many people expect kids to be little adults, tell adults that they are too young,old or different to socialize with!!!  There are advantages to being a young mother or an older mom. We all have different gifts. Had my last kid at 41! He is so awesome!! his sisters are both young moms and their kids like having a teemage uncle!! The other moms are missing out by not getting to know you! ---